we’re in.
it’s official. we are finally, FINALLY, in our new place.
I am very apprehensive about it, having recently seen a group of young black men beat the shit of a young girl who was down on the ground, on a busy street, at 5pm, and no one but me seemed to care. It was about 5 or so miles from our house, and I’m sure shit like this happens everywhere, all the time, in cities all over the country, but I’d never seen anything like it and it freaked the hell out of me. So now I’m pretty much terrified 24/7.
But at least I don’t live with Gordon’s mother anymore.
Trade-offs, people. Trade-offs. Sure, we may be brutally murdered but I repeat, I won’t be living with Gordon’s mother anymore.
YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
We’re in, too!
Congratulations!!!! I wish we could all be there to help you celebrate.
Now email me your address so I can send presents.
Depending on how mean a frame of mind your in… maybe its not a trade off so much as a solution to a nagging problem?
Being pounded by a couple of black guys might loosen her up abit?
Congrats on the new place! I had some bad news, i’m afraid. My vagina fell off and they cant re-attach it. No, but really, we ended up having to cancel our wedding 6 weeks before the big day. Bob dropped a bombshell on me so far as how far in debt he was and my dad instead of giving us $5.000 towards it, changed it to $500.00, which dont cover a whole lot when it comes to a wedding and honeymoon. Also, there just wasnt a whole lot of interest from friends or family to come, so we figured why put out all this money, that we cant afford anyway, to have a wedding, nobody seems much interested in, so when we DO end up doing it, we’re doin Vegas, baby, Vegas! and eloping. No B.S! or drama. Will be awhile though, till we can sort, or rather, BOB can sort his debts out. Oh well, if it’s not one thing, it’s another, aint that always the way? so my wedding dress will have to sit in the closet for awhile longer and i’m going to attempt to sell my maid of honour and bridesmaid dresses to a consigment shoppe, but we’re still out the money we put down on the church and the invites and the dresses, etc… that sucks! but what can you do? in any case, just thought i’d let you know the latest.
I’m sorry to hear about the cancellation, Celly. But, if it’s any consolation, Morgan and I got married in Vegas, and I wouldn’t trade it for anything. We had so much fun! And, even tho everyone I wanted to be there couldn’t, the two most important people were definitely there.
Its unfortunate that Bob couldnt come up with kind information along time ago.I would either suggest Chapter 7, and have the wedding or find some one that doesnt keep Mt Everest secrets in the closet.
Congratulations on the new digs CJM..
No chaper 7, he’s just gonna sell one of his rental properties, besides the condo he has 3 other houses and the one they’re threating foreclosure on is the one he’s gonna sell to get himself out of the mess he’s gotten himself into. He kept it from me so as not to stress me out anymore then I already was, but I wish he had just been honest from the start. Anyway, I found out low and behold today that I have an ulcer, so yay! could things GET any better? I was stressed cause I couldnt get any of my girlfriends to come to a bridal shower or bachelorette party (only 2 people rsvp’d) and nobody like I said, seemed interested in coming to our wedding and all that was weighing heavily on me and the whole no honeymoon, not exactly the wedding I had planned. Hell, I was even gonna get the flowers for the wedding from our local Fred Meyer store and decorations from Party Plus. The whole thing was turning into a nightmare and then my dad telling me he was giving us only $500.00 towards the wedding, even though he had originally promised $5000.00 and i’m his first daughter getting married, but I guess he didnt think that warranted more than $500.00, although he just gave my older brother money for a new snowmobile and bought him and my sister in law a new car, etc… my dad is not hurting for money and let it be known he had it, just didnt think my getting married was a big deal and told me straight out he was only walking me down the aisle cause apparently it was a big deal to me. Gee, thanks alot! and said “it’s hard to get too excited about it at your age, maybe if you were a 22 year old blushing bride or something” and yet, here my other girlfriends were with their parents helping them out and so excited for them and friends throwing themselves awesome bridal showers, etc… was hard for me. My own sister, who I wanted as the maid of honour even told me that I was being selfish to expect her to have to take time off work to come to my dinner rehearsal and wedding (and she wouldnt be at the bridal shower either) and that she didnt want to wear pink (although it was a $300.00 ballgown, which I got on mucho clearance for $25.00, thank God) and I should be considerate enough to buy her a dress in a colour she DID want, or let her wear pants and how dare I make this all about me? but I thought your wedding day was the one day you COULD make it all about you? even though I was the one buying her dress, not her, you think she would be more coroperative, but no. My mom died coming up on two years, next month, otherwise I know she would have been excited for me and gone all out to help make it special and I guess that was hard for me as well. I even had to go wedding dress shopping by myself. Just wasnt what I imagined, thats all. So Tiffany, you’re right, Vegas is the way we’re gonna do it, IF we still end up getting married. At this point, there is so much stress, mostly around finances, who knows if and when that will happen. Whoever said getting married was supposed to be one of the best and happiest times of your life? oh right, the other concierge girl who’s parents are flipping the $25,000 bill for her wedding and even hired her a wedding planner. When you’re struggling to do it yourself, it’s really friggin hard. But it’s all B.S! all that matters is the two people, you’re right, Tiffany, just has to be the right two people, I guess. Or maybe my dad was right when he told me “maybe you’re just not the marrying kind, Celeste, you’re too independant and free spirited” anyway, done venting.
I bought the new Christina Aguleria cd, damnit! and i’m not ashamed to admit it, it’s actually really good, especially the first disc, she kicks it old school, which is pretty cool. I also got Kelly Clarkson and it’s great! I know some people are gonna lose all respect for me (if they had any to begin with) but I had to reveal my deep, dark secret. Christa, are you running from the computer screaming? come to Seattle and hang out with me, damnit! I have a hottub you can use :-)
my god that that was long… all i can say is how self absorbed must your family and friends be not to take the time out for you?
i just know if you do the vegas thing people who didnt seem to careless about the wedding before will b***h about not getting invited.
nothing wrong with kelly clarkson or that dirrrty girl =P
With that I say screw those self centered ex friends. There comes a time in everybodies life when they must break with childhood friends . People change,over time, radically.
Given what you said his finacial issues are more of finacial management of current assets, rather than a need for Bankruptcy.
With that get married in a simple service and take each other out
on a pleasant weekend. Marriage is about love and compatibility,
not bridesmaids and big expensive wedding bills. Thats for kids anyway.
Dont stop getting married because he’s in debt, everybody is in debt, and through life people are in a constantly changing flux
of equity vs debt. Its the way our economy works.
But the psychic today told me to leave him, that if I marry him it will be a marriage built on quicksand and that all this financial stuff coming to the forefront at the last minute like it did, was actually a God send! it’s not just the finances, it’s alot of things, oh well, for me to figure out I suppose, although I think i’m going to suggest atleast a trial seperation at this point and it’s not because he’s in debt, it’s stuff that has been there from the start of our relationship and why we got into couples therapy, but after a couple times, he would refuse to go back, cause he didnt like what they had to say. The one therapist said that Bob was a control freak and that if he could he would put me on his belt loop, so he’d always have me around and know where I was at all times. He comes from the standpoint of two become one, but I believe two people, are still two individual people. He wants me to sign a pre-nup, so even helping him out with what money I can and him wanting to get a loan from my dad (yeah, like thats gonna happen) I still wont get anything from his houses, they are all going to his kids as their inheritance, yet I would be paying on them, how is that fair? and i’m paying on a condo and my name isnt even on the deed. I’ve given him as much money as I can to try to help him out of his financial situation, but at $11.00 an hour, even with all the hours I work, not much I can do. Whats funny is some of his family actually thought I was a golddigger and I’M the one paying the utilities most the time and the homeowner dues and our late fees and on our line of credit. But I think alot of people think that when a younger woman get together with a man 20 years her senior, but with the pre-nup, I wouldnt be getting anything anyway, so gimme a break!
sounds like a good look at the relationship would be best.. maybe your family are more reluctant to get involved in the marriage because they can see all these big problems? but dont want to argue about it with you.. i dont believe in psyciacs but it sounds like in the near future your gonna get screwed, prolly when that guy gets his finances under control…
Given that new information it sounds like you are being given a break. Cut your losses and run. There are still people out there that have more morality and honesty.
To be completly candid it sounds like you are being screwed. Do not return the engagement ring. Pawn it to cover your losses.
Run CB pump those legs.. Really Ive heard enough. Meaning this is not a good situation for anyone. $11.00 an hr is not enough to barely pay for yourself much less anyone else.
Marriage is a partnership, two individuals sharing burden and success, you are sharing burden but being denied any gain upfront in writing. Get out get out!!!
And curses to Gordon’s mother …that witch….
I’m sorry, I’m getting here late. Did you just say “the psychic told me to leave him”?
Yes, I did, Jonathan. But she bascially confirmed what I was already feeling. I wouldnt end something just because a psychic told me too, but it was a little weird how right on she was about everything. Actually, I think we’re gonna try a trial seperation and go from there. Very grown-up like.
No kidding, a psychic told you what you were already thinking? What a nutty coincidence. Tell you what, the next time you get engaged to a guy 20 years your senior & then cheat on him with a doorman right before your wedding, let me save you the $5 Psychic Reading charge. Ask Christa for my email, and email me asking if you should go ahead with the wedding.
What’s that? You say you already know my answer? Hey, maybe YOU’RE a bit of a psychic yourself!
You are a real cold blooded son of a bitch, you know that, Jonathan?
Despite what mistakes people might have made in their past and we all have and done things we regret, why dont you try having a little sensitivity and sympathy towards a fellow human being? even if you dont know me. Despite all the circumstances, it’s still hard and sad, have a friggin heart! but it doesnt seem to me like you do. I think poking fun at someone’s pain is a really low and cruel thing to do, whats wrong with you???
Jesus, all I was trying to do was save you the $5 Psychic Fee! Some people are so ungrateful. If only I had consulted a psychic, maybe I could have predicted how unreceptive to my offers of financial assistance you would end up being.
Wow! were you dropped on your head as a kid or something, Jonathan? or were you just born missing the sensitivity gene? other people’s pain and misery is not funny and the whole psychic thing, jesus h! let it go already. So what if I consulted one? I guess I was really desperate and was at the Sunday Market and she was there and I figured “what the hell” I guess I was just trying to reach out to SOMEBODY, even if that somebody was a psychic at a friggin Sunday Market Fair. When somebody feels confused and desperate sometimes they do irrational and dumb things, case in point, my involvement with the concierge or consulting a psychic. Your so quick to judge someone, like me and assume that i’m a lowlife probably cause I had an affair, which I regret and realize was a HUGE mistake, that hopefully I learned from. We all do, thats a part of life and a part of growing. You dont need to keep sticking it to me, Jesus! i’m a great person, but i’m not a perfect person and I have feelings and even though this is an anonymous blog to a large degree and we dont know each other for the most part on here, have some basic decency and empathy for another human being who might be hurting. That’s all I have to say.
You go girl!!!!
I think he had more of an issue with you seeing the psyciac then with any indecretions, i fear it was a tad over the top though. still at least your doing the right thing with this trial seperation, does that mean you wont be paying stuff in the meantime though? because if your seperated AND still handing over you $11 dollars an hour its abit screwy
i wonder what CM makes of all this.. 23 posts n counting
Yes we need an analysis from the owner of this site..CJM!!!
I didn’t want to post because I really don’t know celly, but I wish you the best of luck with everything. God what a horrible situation to be in….I don’t think you are stupid for seeing a psychic. I know how it is to feel like you can’t talk to anyone about stuff.
For a humorous change of pace…
http://www.cultdeadcow.com/cDc_files/cDc-0229.php
Interesting?
http://www.cultdeadcow.com/cms/about_us.php3
“I know how it is to feel like you can’t talk to anyone about stuff. “
What if this statement is like a desperate cry for help from Michelle? Ever since I first read it I keep imagining her going on to type a whole long rant about how she’s planning to murder her husband, or her lover, or her husband’s lover. Or maybe even her lover’s husband! It’s okay Michelle, there’s always someone you can tell. Don’t do anything crazy now, sweetie. Like pay a charlatan in funny robes $5 to tell you what you’re already thinking (“yes, yes, the visions are becoming clearer… I’m seeing a man now… your husband, yes? And he is… he has been shot!”)
‘i see.. i see.. Jonathan dead.. surrounded by many females..’
the only person i see with a death wish is you man =P you odnt pick a fight with two girls at the same time thats just crazy!!!!!
I’m sure you didn’t become a dick overnight, it probably took several years of practice. Its ok though…if keep working at it maybe someday you’ll actually offend someone.
I’m actually writing this post from jail. I took your advice and other than the daily rapings and cavity searches I’m a much happier person now. I gotta run now before Bertha the guard gets back. I don’t have any more cigarettes to bribe her with.
mmmmmmmm…Bertha…………….
sweet
call me crazy, but i find jonathan’s criticisms to be rather refreshing (perhaps because they’ve never been aimed at me). celly, it seems like you need to slow down and really think about things. jonathan’s right, you don’t need a psychic to tell you what you already know.
right on Jonathan!
What I wrote about Michelle wasn’t a criticism (and I’m sorry you took it that way!), it was just pure nonsense; apologies for having angered you, Michelle.
Celeste, on the other hand… perhaps I’m guilty as charged for kicking someone when they’re down; still, some people make their own beds, to an extent. Your life (as described here in the comments section of an anonymous blog – not even YOUR blog, at that) is a train wreck of comic proportions, and the icing on the cake that you went to a psychic to see what to do was too tempting to resist. I’m a weak man, it’s a failing.
I know I know I know
I didn’t get enough sleep last night with my newborn so I was a little cranky. Sorry about that. I did have fun writing about Bertha though.
Fine, I wont post anymore about my life on here, I thought this was a place where everybody shared and you do have a right to your opionon, I just think it’s cruel to call someone’s life a train wreck and poke fun at their unhappiness and unfortunate events in their life. Walk a mile in their shoes, then judge them next time. You dont know my life and what i’ve been thru and perhaps if you did, you would feel differently and realize, despite it all, i’ve actually come out the other side better than alot of people who’ve been thru what I have, would have. Nobody is perfect and you are a cruel person, but I dont know you and therefore your opionon needs to cease mattering to me. Some people feel better by making others feel worse and apparently thats what you do, Jonathan, thats sad though and says alot about you. In any case, this will be my last posting on here, so dont worry. For those of you who were supportive and understanding, thank you, I really appreciate that. Karma will come around and kick you in the ^%#! Jonathan, so I dont envy you. You put negative energy out there and you will get it back.
Loafe: Live Love Loafe?
Apparently NOT!!!
Instead, thanks to Jonathan, its shallow and base cruelty.
But thats what the people want.
Jonathan, you are a very funny and very clever man, and a constant source of laugh out loud amusement for me, but you should lay off the CB…
Come back CB, we’ll look after you…
Thanks guys, for the support. Its nice to read. It’s just that someone’s life isnt always worth joking about. Sometimes when a fellow human being is truly hurting and in pain and depressed, you dont then rub salt in the wounds, even if you are doing it in a joking way. Not everything is worth joking about. There’s a thing called empathy for someone, even if you dont know that someone, its just basic decency and compassion. But I guess I cant expect everyone to react the way I would, but thats how I would be towards someone who found themselves in my situation. Thats all. Thanks again to the good, kindhearted people on here.
In any case, this will be my last posting on here, so dont worry
time elapsed until next posting: 2hrs, 44 minutes. Man, CB, when you turn your back on a place, you really stick to your guns. I almost had time to marinade a rib roast during your self-imposed exile; I was starting to worry that you would never, ever return; that somehow my kind offer to save you $5 had led to me never hearing what became of you & the bankrupt geriatric you cheated on & then broke up with. Oh what cruel, cruel fate that would have been. Thanks be to the heavens above that your searing fatwa against ever posting here again has at long last been lifted!! It is a boon from the very heavens above!!! Allah be praised!
Oh, and Simon – hey, thanks for the compliments.
I’m hoping she grows up with Dad’s sense of humor, tempered with Mom’s generosity of spirit.
I have the fortunate pleasure of knowing CB, and quite well. maybe too well, eh celly?
She’s one heck of a girl, let me tell you. She’s the farthest thing from phony you could find and she’s completely insane, totally and beyond any shadow of a doubt. I love it. I’ve had more fun with her in just a few days that I’ve had with people I’ve known for my whole life.
Free-spirited is putting it lightly. We should all be so lucky. I am in debt to celeste, because she helped me loosen up and let go. She brought things out in me I was too afraid to accept, but once I did I finally began to be okay with being me. Not through anything she said or did, but just by her essentialness.
That being said, no one here has to like anyone else. Just because I like both Jonathan and Celeste doesn’t mean they have to like each other. Part of living, loving and loafing is not having to like everyone we meet. We are who we are and that’s it. No questions asked, no explanations given, none needed.
I know that CB will keep posting, because she won’t let anyone knock her down for long. She needs to tell jonathan to fuck off and continue on her merry way.
Anyway, no one here needs my permission or my admonishment. A great lesson I’ve learned all my many years: work it out amongst yourselves.
Wiser words have never been spoken……